After various tests here and there, I have not found any combination that you can satisfy me like the old style gnome 2 ... now I try to survive with this combination.
Distro= Archlinux x86_64 (Gnome 3 desktop)
Gtk3 theme Plastiq: [link]
Shell theme Gs-metalx: [link]
Icon theme Pry-Etched-Black
File manager: Marlin (this replace nautilus elementary project)
Everything else is awn lucido, conky, screenlets and covergloobus-bzr.